Is there a difference?
Hev and I decided to ask ourselves this question and this is what we can up with:
For me, the line between self-love and self care has always been clear.
In the time of Instagram I believe these two notions get someone muddled. The hashtags run into each other and the lines between the two topics are blurred. Maybe for neuro typical is and able-bodied people self-love and self-care are one in the same, but for me and my wife, the line between the two is very clear.
Both topics are equally important and require the same amount of attention. If either one slips, that can severely affect my overall well-being.
To put it simply I view self-care as a kind of maintenance. It’s like getting a service on your car. For me, self-care is insuring my overall health is at the forefront of what I’m doing. That could be drinking enough water, taking my medication, attending therapy, eating well, and insuring I have an outlet for whatever needs to be let out. Self-care is my manual, the specific things I need to keep me, Hev, in working order.
If self-care is my manual then self love is my song book. It’s filling pages with words and sounds all about me. It’s self-indulgent and it’s wonderful and it’s imperative to my health. It’s taking a three hour bath, it’s watching my favourite horror film for the millionth time, it’s calling up my best friend just to talk complete shit. It’s looking in the mirror and knowing that even if today I don’t like every single thing I see I know that I am still a beautiful and worthy and valid human being.
It’s wrapping my arms tightly around myself and saying that everything will be okay because you deserve for everything to be okay.
These two subjects are extremely personal to each and every one of us and this message often gets hidden within the hashtags of thousands of influencer posts across this platform who use the movement to boost images of lush bath bombs and gifted face masks. This might be self-care or self love for them, but it’s imperative that you know that this isn’t always what these topics are about.
There is no right or wrong way to do either of these things, because in the end it’s all about
Y O U.
What do you think? Is there a difference? Or are they both one of the same?